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6 Ways to Connect Daily with Your Partner

Simple ways to keep your relationship healthy

Connecting with your partner on a daily basis will keep your relationship healthy and strong.  In the midst of kids, work, and life, it is easy to forget to prioritize that brief, but important connection with each other. Here are 6 easy ways to touch base and connect with your partner to keep your relationship happy and healthy.

1. Affection

Make it habit to kiss or hug “good morning.” Before you leave the house and start the many errands you have lined up for the day, stop, look your honey in the eye, and say, “I love you.”

It is great if your children see these times of connection. You’re setting an example of how a loving couple says good morning to each other and how they make sure that they know that when the other is leaving the last thought as they walk through the door is that they are loved.

*It is great if you do this with the kids too, look them in the eye, and say, “I love you,” as they walk through the door to start their day.

We all benefit from knowing we have a home base where we are loved.

2. The 5 minute rundown

We all have something happened during the day. Whether it is a quirky, but lovely encounter at a coffee shop, an irritating call with a customer service representative, or a near miss in traffic. Talk to each other quickly about what happened that day. While the other person is speaking. Listen. Completely.

I have talked about how much I love taking a bath together at night. This is one of the 70  Couples Date Night Ideas, but it works even better for a daily connection. The kids will usually give you a little space in the bathroom.

3. Attitude of gratitude

It is so easy to forget to be thankful for the small things. When you go our to eat, say “thank you for dinner” to the one who picks up the check, even if it is from a joint account, even if it is a family dinner. Your children will see this and it teaches them to also say thank you and not take this for granted.

When your car gets the gas tank filled, the trash gets taken out, the yard work gets done, etc. Take notice of these things that keep your household working and appreciate them. I know-you do so much and it does not get noticed. You will also be inadvertently teaching the other people in your life to notice the small things that keep your house running smoothly.

4. Do it together

There are many tasks, errands, etc that you both do. Find pockets of time you can spend together and accomplish the day to day “stuff” that has to get done and do it together. You may find common hobbies or things you enjoy doing that will give you something to talk about and have fun doing outside of “life with the kids.”

Exercising
Cooking
Watching TV
Picking up kids
Waking the dog

5. End the day together

Have a nighttime routine that includes time for just the two of you.

You can keep a backgammon or cribbage board next to the bed and every night before bed play a game while talking.
Choose a book to read and each night, you take turns reading a chapter.
Get a deck of question cards. Ask each other a question and talk about your answers.
Do a yoga, stretch, or meditation routine together.
Create a dance playlist. The average song lasts 3.5 minutes. Before you go to bed, dance, to just one song.You will be amazed at the amount of connection you feel from this 3.5 minutes on a daily basis.
Conserve water and jump in the tub together. Talk about your day and what you are excited about or have anxiety about for tomorrow. (I obviously love this one, mentioned twice in this article!)

6. Get a little goofy

Laughter is truly one of the best ways to connect with your partner.

Share jokes, memes, and cartoons throughout the day that are meant for just you two via text. While these are funny and border on silly, they also let your love know you are thinking of them throughout the day.

As an aside, my kids are older now. I get complaints from relatives that they (the boys) just do not communicate, respond, or text back. These are young adult men, I cannot tell them what to do. The dilemma…I want them to have close relationships with grandparents and aunts and uncles. I am starting (just this week) a group text that has all of the relatives on it with my two boys. I am teaching the boys to evaluate their lives for the week and find a cartoon to represent this. Then send that out  to everyone with a little note. 

This is the same concept of the laughter with your partner, but it is only once a week. However, the main issue this will solve is that the family will know my boys do think of them. It will also give my boys something to say. If this works, look for a blog in two months!

A healthy and happy relationship thrives on daily communication. Connecting with your partner daily will strengthen your relationship with love, affection and laughter.

As long as we are together; it doesn’t matter to me. – Marty, “Madagascar”